I would like to talk about a
sensitive subject, and I pray I can manage it with care. I hope to be able to
share a way to talk about this sacred act with the care and respect it
deserves. It is too often spoken about with such disregard to it sacredness that
I feel the attitude in a relationship can take on that same carelessness, and I
want to help avoid this. With so much carelessness in our world when speaking
about sexual relationship, I am aiming to help redirect understanding and bring
back the attitude of cherishing the act of being physical with someone
special.
Let us do a little story
telling. I love my family, so much. And I have some amazing women in my family,
starting with my mom. I also have quite a few aunts in my family who I just
love to death. As a gift to me and Jack, they asked if they could all put on a
reception for me. Of course, I said yes, and they went ahead and planned it.
Leading up to the reception Jack and I talked about what colors we want, what
the decorations were to look like, if we wanted a line, who would take pictures
and on and on. We discussed big and little things, we made decisions and worked
together. The day of, Jack and I took extra care to wear our best clothing, to
get our hair done, and (for me) make that day the one day I was going to wear
makeup that year. My family asked us to show up an hour early before the
reception was to start so we made our way over and got there on time. Upon
arrival I was astonished at the transformation that has taken over my grandparents’
place. There where booth set up, games about, and so much many sweet things
that everyone was sure to go into a sugar comma by the end of the night. Jack
and I were beyond grateful for the family that had helped make such a special
place for us to celebrate the beginning of an eternity of happiness. We thanked
everyone and nearly a year later, I am so moved by the care and love that was
shown to us.
Now, this maybe a weird story
to start off the topic of sexual relationships but bare with me. If you and your
sweetheart were given a gift or an experience like this, how would you respond?
How do you plan for it? Would you do it before or the day of? Would you make
needed preparation? And on the day of, how would you treat it? If we are
talking about a present specifically, how would you unwrap it? Would you rip it
open, or treat it genteelly and with care?
Now let us relate it all in case I
have been too discrete about it. When approaching having sex (whether it is for
the first time or 1000th time with someone), would you talk about it
before hand? Would you plan how to do it safely? Would you have ways to let the
other person know that you two have gone far enough? These are important, and I
believe, needed in a healthy sexual relationship. When having sex, it is a time
to get to know one another on an incredibly special level. It is a time to
communicate and grow closer through this sacred experience.
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